That's the point

“Did you hook up with your girlfriend yet?” 

“No. But I have high hopes for that. Assuming I can stay alive.” 

“High hopes for what?”

 “Our relationship.” 

“Why?” she asks. “What’s changed between then and now?” This is one of these utterly simple and obvious questions that is irritating because Hiro’s not sure of the answer. 

“Well, I think I figured out what she was doing—why she came here.” 

“So?” Another simple and obvious question.

 “So, I feel like I understand her now.”

 “You do?” 

“Yeah, well, sort of.” 

“And is that supposed to be a good thing?” 

“Well, sure.” 

“Hiro, you are such a geek. She’s a woman, you’re a dude. You’re not supposed to understand her. That’s not what she’s after.

Snow Crash, chapter 58 - Neal Stephenson